4 Ways my cats affect me psychologically
I haven’t written a blog in a while, and there is a reason for that, yes you could say I’ve been just so busy having a full time job, I get home and have a furry and not so furry family to feed (hubby included). So time sometimes just feels non-existent to actually sit down and write something down.
I’ve also experienced “writers block”. But, alas, here I am, and this is a topic that I have been wanting to write about for ages. I am not a certified psychologist, and I have absolutely no experience in the field other than what I’ve read in books, and obviously through my own experiences with owning cats. So here are my ways that cats have affected me psychologically.
It’s in the way they “speak”
Have you ever wondered what is going on in that little head of cats? I have many times, and I have come to the following conclusion. Our cats rely on us so much that sometimes it shows in their demeanour. With my three boys I can see it in so many different ways. All of them have such unique personalities, and I just love it when I feel needed. Call it a maternal thing, as I don’t have kids yet, so I love it when my cats give me the “I need you” moments.
Let me rank them in order of their age. Firstly, Travis – He is my gentle ginger boy. If he could speak he would utter “I love you” every time he sees me. Of course I don’t need to hear it, I pick up on it every time he looks at me. He has to be with me, or near me all the times. If there is thunder, I am the only one that can calm him down. Although I hate it when he is scared, but I love knowing that I am able to sooth him in a stressful situation. He really is my little lover boy!
Then we have Sancho, he is the most respected between the three boys. Both Travis and Scotch know where they stand with him. But, for me, he is a real softy. He knows what he wants, when he wants it, and he knows that he has me wrapped around his little paw. When he wants something, he talks to me with his eyes. He really knows how to get through to my soul! It is truly amazing, we just get each other, we are in sync. Yes, I would say the same for each of my boys, but the connection with Sancho is truly fascinating. There are often times where I so wish my boys could speak to me, but with Sancho, I really feel like he does. I just get him!
And finally, we have Scotch. The newbie in our home! The baby of the house! I am still trying to figure him out to be honest. He is probably the most demanding out of my three boys. They all have the “I want, I need” moments, but Scotch takes the cake. He wants attention, whether from me or his brothers, all the time! He wants food, when he wants food. And if you don’t give it to him fast enough, he will tell you about it, he is very vocal.
So to sum it up, we have a lover, a looker and a talker. All so different, yet they all want a bit of the same thing, they just approach me differently about it, and I just love that!
Helping the humans when we feel stress
This is a no brainer in my opinion. As we all know, being human comes with many obstacles. We have day jobs, we need money to survive, and we have personal situations that can be quite stressful at times. Isn’t it wonderful to come home to a being that just gives off love, no matter what the circumstance? When I walk into my home after a long day at the office, I really do feel quite relaxed. I love coming home to three little faces waiting for me at the door. They all have their own ways of greeting us when we walk in. It’s almost like they take turns (based on their ranks) to greet us. Then the routine begins. As I walk through the house to our bedroom to get out of my work clothes, I have three little shadows behind me. You could say they’re just in it for the food, but I tend to disagree. They follow me and stay close by until they have eaten. Then it is toilet time and finally, my favourite, snuggle time!
After having a stressful time at work, I can always rely on my three boys for comfort in the evenings. They take my thoughts off work and into home mode. They make my home, a home! I cannot imagine my life without them in it. Oh boy, it would be so incomplete!
When you’re sad, hug a cat
Being a woman myself, I can totally relate to the odd emotional moments. I have many of these, and I love being an emotional person. It adds a quality to life I believe, that just shows compassion and you get to let all your feelings out. Sometimes, the emotions come with not so happy thoughts, and I only have one place I go when I am having moments like this. My cats! I will sit on the bed, or sofa and cry, and it is funny how they will all be around me. Not necessarily close by, but they are there. I feel their presence. Let me put it into context for you: on a normal, unemotional day, my cats have their spots in the house where they sleep. If you don’t know them, you would not even know where they are. They all have their favourite spots, and if I need them, I know exactly where to find them. But on days where I am feeling slightly under the weather, they come out, and hover.
It is so amazing how they react to my emotions, how they pick up on my moods and tend to mimic how I am feeling. Travis is always the one I can rely on for a cuddle though. He will come to me and sit on my lap purring ever so loudly as if to say, all is fine mom, and sooths me in a way that I simply cannot explain. If you have a cat, I’m sure you can relate.
Cats really do help you get back to a happy state of mind
With the above said, when I am sad, stressed, emotional – whatever I am feeling – I can always rely on my three furry boys to pick me up. I have always said that when you are having a bad day, it is always good to focus your attention on something positive, and for me it is my cats. I have always maintained that my three boys chose us, we did not choose them. We have always felt that they came into our lives at critical moments, and we continue to share our lives, happy or sad, with them. They are a big part of who we are! Having any pet, in my belief, reduces stress, and it is in that moment of madness that we really do appreciate what they do for us. It is also scientifically proven that a cat’s purr has a positive, calming effect on us, so why not take in all the purrs you can, every day. Enjoy the purrs!
To conclude, all I can say it this, our cats are in our lives, love them, enjoy them, and let them comfort you when you need it most. And even if you are in a good space in life, share it with them, spoil them, and thank them for being a very special part of that!
I have heard it so many times in my life – “My cat does not get along with my new puppy, looking for a good home for it”, or, “My husband is allergic to my cat… looking for a good home”. This just breaks my heart to be honest. A cat comes with so many responsibilities and is a lifelong commitment. The moment you feel the need to get a cat you need to consider everything that could come your way with this little feline. Don’t let it be an impromptu decision, it is one that should not come lightly, because at the end of the day, if it turns out to not suit your way of life, you will be to blame, but the cat is the one who suffers.
If you have read my introduction on the website you would have been introduced to all of my cats, both that have crossed rainbow bridge and the ones that occupy my home and life today. But I’ve wanted to go into this deeper, and I’ve wanted to share with you the greatest feeling of purpose that I have felt over the years of rescuing cats.
As much as I would love to rescue them all, I have rescued a total of 6, keeping 5 of those 6 and fostering 1. So this is the story of how I came to share my life with my cats, and how I came to falling in love with cats thanks to them.